“Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening”- Maya Angelou
Happy Wise Words Wednesdays everyone!
Are you the type of person that lives anticipating what can go wrong at all times? Do you bring this mentality into your relationship?
If you answered yes then today’s Wise Words Wednesday episode, The Love Detox: Part 3 is for you.
Part of the reason why people get into unhappy relationships is because they are filtering their current relationship with their past. Eliminating a hurtful past, or predisposed hurtful ideas about relationships is the key to a healthy and happy love life today.
The worst emotion in a relationship we must detox from is jealousy. Now, like Maya says a little jealous keeps your partner knowing you care, and creates a good seasoning on things. This is not the jealousy I am referring to. I am referring to jealousy that is obsessive. Obsession hinders love…oftentimes kills it, because you start to control and posses over someone else. To understand how to eliminate this toxin from your emotional body you must understand why it is there in the first place.
The Origin of Jealousy
Jealousy is an internal fear you posses of being rejected, abandoned or getting hurt. This fear keeps us from experiencing true love/ true passion. Where there is fear, love can not exist, passion dies, and you get in a controlling needy stage.
Eliminate Yourself from Jealousy
Often times people ask me…” How do I know if the other person is not going to hurt me?” — the answer is simple, YOU DON’t KNOW, but sitting around anticipating the worst case scenario will not change anything. If someone is going to cheat /lie they are going to do it regardless; so save yourself all the headaches from your own negative thoughts. Now, if you know that the fear you are experiencing is real, and its your gut warning you, then leave the relationship; why do you want to live with this toxin?
If you know that your jealousy comes from a negative past experience, then its time to forgive that person/ experience, thank it for what it taught you, and release yourself from it. Being a prisoner of your past is hard on your own life. Live easy, so you can love greater. Chances are the person you are with at this moment is in your life to bring you immense joy, happiness, and to teach you how to truly love, but if you’re caught up in your own mind with negative thoughts you miss the opportunity to learn how to love.
Ever met someone that felt guilty because their partner was unfaithful, these people loved from a place of fear and control. As a result, they feel immense guilt for not giving that relationship their all, and begin to think that their negative emotions drove that other person to cheat! Wouldn’t you feel extremely great knowing that you gave your relationship your all, regardless of the outcome?
On this weeks episode THE LOVE DETOX join me to release yourself from this toxin, so that you can begin to experience True Love.
Now, I would love to hear some of your experiences on how you have overcome jealousy to let love in.